Are Afraid Of Falling In Love, Ranked From Most To Least

Some types have a harder time falling in love than others.

Do you have a hard time falling in love? 

While it's easy for some of us to fall head over heels in an instant, there are others who find it tougher to feel that kind of a romantic connection with another person. Some people fall in love fast and easily. There are some people who experience that "fall in love" feeling every time they're in a relationship with someone. 

However, there are others who can't be swept off their feet at the drop of a hat and there can be several reasons as to why this happens. Some of us plainly just aren't hopeless romantics. We may not believe in the whole soulmate/true love concept. Or maybe we just don't want that for ourselves. Some of us are simply not relationship people and this is totally fine.

It may come as a natural part of our individual personality traits.

There are other reasons why we may possibly have a hard time acquiring that feeling of love. Some of us require a little more time to obtain a deeper connection towards someone. We really need to get to know them first. And some of us may just feel a little trepidation when it comes to the act of love. Falling in love can definitely be a scary thing, especially if we've never felt these feelings towards someone before or if we have already fallen in love and experienced a serious heartbreak from it sometime in our past.

It's important to remember that love is, indeed, complicated. And we all deal with matters of the heart a little differently. It comes to down to our specific personalities. This is why being familiar with your Myers-Briggs personality typecan greatly help. Each type has a different way of seeing love and relationships. The traits belonging to each type factor into how we view romantic relationships.

So, here are the personality types who have a hard time falling in love, ranked from most to least.

1. ESFP

An ESFP is the personality type that is usually the least likely to fall in love easily. This type is used to living their lives fast and in-the-moment, which carries over into their relationships. 

Long-term partnerships aren't something that an ESFP looks for or even really desires to have in their lives. This type has a fear of commitment and anything else that comes with a serious relationship. This is because it's really just not their preference to have anything long-term and they would rather exert their time and energy on fun, short relationships that bring them enjoyment over settling for slow, stable romances. These kinds of liaisons fit better with their adventurous, fast-moving lifestyles

2. INTJ

Long-term relationships are a serious business for an INTJ, meaning that falling in love will take a very long time. Everything must be studied and calculated. This type isn't willing to take any risks when it comes to their hearts. Potential romantic partners need to be thoroughly examined and fit the criteria that an INTJ has thought up for them. Romance is never something to be taken lightly, which is why you won't ever find an INTJ who falls easily into love.

An INTJ's love for their significant other is strong and filled with an unwavering devotion, but actually getting to that point is a lengthy process for anyone with this personality type.

3. ENTJ

Honesty time: this type is ruthless regarding romantic relationships. In fact, their take-no-prisoners approach to personal relationships is this type's main weakness. 

ENTJ's have zero problem cutting ties and moving on with nary a second glance. They tend to have major problems sensing the feelings of other's and heartbreak just isn't even in their vocabulary. Although all these characteristics make it seem like an ENTJ is an emotionless robot who's totally incapable of falling in love, it's probably because they really are. We're just playing with you, ENTJ! Truthfully, an ENTJ does want a long-term relationship, but these dominant parts of their personality often provide weighty obstacles to their love lives.

4. ISFJ

Romance can be a tricky business for an ISFJ. An extremely high value is placed on committed relationships. This value combined with an ISFJ's natural shyness can cause a protective wall to be built around their hearts. 

An ISFJ can't let themselves go through any kind of relationship that will cause damage to their emotions and won't ever risk letting themselves fall for someone if there is even one tiny doubt in their feelings for each other. Falling in love can be a real struggle for this type, since they are often afraid to completely open their hearts up to anyone. 

5. ESTP
This type finds it very hard to move their relationships to a more serious place. It's easy for them to become bored and feel stuck in relationships, so moving on quickly is hardly an issue for them. They have a difficult time becoming emotionally closer to their partners, so they never really experience that falling in love feeling. Their romantic relationships are never deep enough or have enough substance to get to that point. Getting to the love stage can take a ton of work and patience with an ESTP.